Whether you are a creative or not, fear is something that can cripple us. Business and personal life can present a lot of obstacles and if we aren’t careful, it can make us feel like we aren’t worthy or good enough. Below I curated six key concepts to overcome fear aimed towards creatives and business owners. Don’t let me fool you though, I am still working on learning how to accept and deal with failure and fear myself. It’s all in our attitude and perspective! Read on to find out more:
Be Vulnerable and Admit Your Faults
Fear usually manifests because we are scared to be vulnerable. Vulnerability means being open about our flaws, weaknesses, and worries. It’s letting our guard down and opening up. It’s hard, vulnerability is not my strong suite. When we are vulnerable we become real and authentic. We let others see that we do not have it all together. When we let our guard down, it makes it easier for people to relate to us. And as we realize that other people are just like us, the fear and anxiety starts to go away.
Get Over Yourself
The truth is, people probably don’t care about you as much as you might think they do. It sounds harsh, but everyone else is too busy with their own lives and own worries to be that preoccupied with yours. Also, if people really are excessively concerned about you, they are probably one of three things: jealous, intimidated, or just plain mean. Keep this in mind when worrying about what other people think about you. And if you are one of those people that are jealous or intimidated of others being successful – knock. it. off!
Stop Caring What Other People Think
Speaking of what other people think, we need to stop fearing and caring about what others think about us. I have found this gets easier as we get older. Our twenties are filled with self discovery and craving acceptance as we try to navigate our way through adulthood. We want people to like us, it’s natural! For myself, the older and the closer to 30 I get, I find that you just don’t let other people’s opinions affect you as much. I have been scared to blog because I use to worry what others thought and was worried about how they would judge me on my more personal post. I let go of that fear and now am blogging on a consistent basis.
Realize We Are All In This Together
We are often not alone in our trials. Even if it feels like we are the only ones going through a rough time, it’s usually the opposite. Most likely, you don’t like to publicize when life just doesn’t seem fair or your heart is heavy – you want to show the happy, successful moments and look like you got it together! For this reason its hard to reach out and find out that other people may be having the same struggles – whether that be in business or life. Since starting our TuesdaysTogether group, I’m shocked (and a little relieved) at how many people have had the same questions, fears, and doubts as me. You mean, I’m not the only one wondering where all the clients are? I’m not the only one with a messy filing cabinet? Im not the only one who’s up until 2am working? I have met some of my closest friends through TuesdaysTogether and we have built a community that raises each other up!
Comparison is definitely something that can breed fear. When we start comparing ourselves to others we start to fear that we are not good enough. Comparison is almost always superficial and not real. What we see on social media is always the highlight reel of someone else’s life. One way to get rid of this anxiety and fear builder is to get rid of it! Take a break and detox. Have a social media free weekend. Block certain apps and websites. Go through your friends and followers and delete people that are causing you to feel crummy about yourself. You have permission to not follow someone. I know these people are not doing anything intentionally to bring you down, but if for some reason you always feel worse about yourself when you see what they are up to or how pretty their pictures are, don’t follow them! It may seem petty, but you need to do what you need to do to become free of negative thinking and self doubt.
Stop Waiting For Everything to be Perfect
Waiting on the stars to align is the most common excuse I hear from other creatives (and one I tell myself quite often). If you are waiting on perfection, it’s never going to happen. The time to start is right now (wow, that sounded cliche!). Im serious, the best way to get moving is to start moving. What you focus on, grows. In order to get past the idea of perfection and fear of failure, we have to realize there is probably a good chance that we will fail. A lot. And that’s ok. Instead of sitting there worrying, keep your nose to the grindstone, get stuff done, and hustle! It will pay off, I promise.
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